Dating a much shorter man
All this time, she’d told herself that she didn’t like short men because she simply wasn’t sexually attracted to them; in fact, the real reason she wasn’t attracted to short men was because she had a fixed image in her mind of what a man should look and act like as a result of her upbringing, and she needed the men she seeks out romantically to fit the same exact image of the men in her family. I spend more hours than you’d believe trying to help men and women change the type of person to whom they’re sexually attracted. The first step is to dig deep and ask yourself what in your history makes you attracted to a certain type, as well as what in your history repels you from a certain type.
In my work with women, I’ve found that there are two basic reasons why most women won’t date a short man: Some women will feel nervous about being too big, telling themselves they’ll look smaller if they’re with a bigger guy; others simply want the knight in shining armor, and they need a man to live up to a fantasy image of masculinity and size, telling themselves that a bigger man is also automatically emotionally stronger, too.
I want to know the following information: Is he reliable? If not, is he working his fingers to the bone looking for one? By the way, who’s going to care how tall anyone is as you celebrate your 25th anniversary together?
I also want to know if he’s a good listener and if he talks well about his friends or family because he should already have some good, close interpersonal relationships.
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I know many an otherwise open-minded woman who swears that she would never date someone shorter than she is, and I used to count myself among them. According to the CDC, the average height difference between men and women is 5.5 inches (coincidentally — or maybe not — that’s about the same length as the average erect penis. And both men and women feel pressure to adhere to height norms: One 2008 study of college students found that about 50 percent of guys wanted their partners to be shorter than them, while 90 percent of women wanted their partners to be taller than them. Guys who are comfortable with you being taller are likely comfortable with your ambition, intellect, and talent too. guys from 20 to 29 years of age are under 5-foot-10, the average male height, while only about 20 percent of guys exceed the 6-foot mark.
You love him and all his lil'ness, but you also love a pair of stupidly high heels and how great they make you feel even when you're awkwardly a head taller than him. When you wear your most comfortable shoes (flats, obvs), you are the perfect height for each other. There's some instinctual part of him that will always feel like he needs to compensate for something. Probably while he was chilling in a bar in college, a tall, beautiful woman pointed at him and drunk whisper-yelled to her friend, "He's so cute but also short. " She's a sad, vague memory now, and you are the most beautiful lady in the world to him. When you need to complain about something beyond your control, he empathizes. The only reason you paid 0 for cropped boyfriend jeans this spring is because Katie Holmes went out in her shortie ex Tom Cruise's pants looking so badass the trend is still going, six years later. Even when he puts your wine glasses on the top shelf, you can still get to them when you need to. Now he's all grown up and he doesn't give a shit what people think about .
He appreciates your height-blind love more than a taller man. He probably cared for a while about how he looked to other people.
Check out this equation: Dating Short Men = Uphill Battle. I haven’t conducted a study of my own on the subject, but I can assure you that scores of women of every type will say they simply aren’t attracted to short men.
Decoded, this equation refers to the tough time many short men have trying to find a romantic partner because some women won’t date someone shorter than they are. If you push them, they will hedge a bit: “I don’t know why, I’m just not.” As a psychologist, it’s not my job or place to be mean-spirited or hurtfully blunt, but it is my job to tell it like it is in reality.