It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.How to fix this: Spin it on its head and give the headline more importance.Rather than saying Long story short, she was receiving a lot of messages from men who expressed their disdain at her choice for wanting to identify as a feminist.
some ugly truths we must all be aware of and conquer before we embark on a journey to find “the one.” This is one of the biggest truths about online dating nobody wants to admit.
It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.
I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.
This stark increase in interest occurs in both genders, but it is even more prevalent in men. I’m not sharing this story to bash those who are attracted to money or call them out as gold diggers; the point I’m stressing is that your profile shouldn’t include components that will attract the wrong crowd.
During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.