Sexual purity when dating after divorce
It feels like the final nail in the coffin that following the “rules” down to the letter doesn’t unlock everything you want or a perfect life.
It shows the system itself is so broken that it’s not even successful for the guy who invented it.
(Gosh, I wonder why the other couples from the original I KISSED DATING GOODBYE book are all divorced now?
) He unintentionally makes the argument that all Christians are pretty much interchangeable from one another, and the only factor that goes into a decision about who to marry is their commitment to their religion.
One of the things I remember the most from that book was how afraid his then-fiancee was to confess that she was not a virgin.
The damage that purity culture did to me was not just limited to sex and relationships.The black-and-white thinking that pervades evangelicalism has in turn affected the way I see the world.In a way I feel cheated, because it’s been shown that children raised with these strict dichotomies are less creative, less good at solving problems, and less able to see the nuance in situations.I didn’t realize how much the cult of virginity had affected me for years afterward.Even after I’d turned away from the church, it nipped at my heels.